The Heart Beat

Opinion and Invective On The World of Dating and Relationships

November 14, 2017

The Practice of Thankfulness

For many of us, Thanksgiving kicks off a season of celebration which doesn’t really seem to stop until sometime in January. I probably don’t have to tell you that large gatherings of people, festive parties, and times when everyone is supposed to be part of a happy family can be especially hard if you’re single […]

November 9, 2017

The Cost of Complacency

Complacency is a continuous struggle that we all have to fight. ~ Jack Nicklaus You know how you sometimes (perhaps frequently) have that experience of something bumping up against you repeatedly and you feel the nudge to listen. It’s like the universe is trying to tell you something, or to teach you a lesson, or […]

October 24, 2017

Emily Nunn’s Comfort Food Diaries: Lessons in Life and Love

Emily Nunn’s new book The Comfort Food Diaries: My Quest for the Perfect Dish to Mend a Broken Heart is a memoir about a woman in the midst of grief. In the wake of her brother’s death, her fiancé breaks up with her and her life falls apart. What does she do? First, she moves […]

October 9, 2017

‘It Was Only Three Dates, But I’m Devastated’

Dear Sara: After a year of going on dozens of so-so dates, I finally met a guy I really liked. Our dates were lively and fun, and he was really cute. It had been ages since I’d felt that way about anyone, and I was so happy and relieved. I was sure he felt the […]

September 28, 2017

A Letter to Those Who Hope

Hi there, If this is the fall where you can’t quite seem to get excited about the idea of new beginnings, I’m writing this to you. You’re here, I know, because you’re holding onto hope by a tiny little thread. I get it—it seems like an impossibility that you will meet the right person, someone […]

September 20, 2017

‘I’m Embarrassed by My Lengthy Break Up’

Dear Sara: I was single for 10 years before I met my ex, and we were together for two years. Then we had a weird/sad breakup that lasted about a year. We broke up and got back together a bunch of times, so I didn’t tell anyone we broke up until recently. Also, we are […]

September 15, 2017

4 Signs Your Date isn’t Actually Looking for a Relationship

Someone telling you that he or she is looking for a relationship isn’t the same thing as really and truly wanting one. Anyone can utter the right words, but words often aren’t matched by behavior. At the end of the day, it shouldn’t matter what your date says about wanting a relationship; what matters is […]

August 31, 2017

6 Signs You’re Ready For a Real Relationship

During a recent conversation with an acquaintance, the topic turned to how she had met her husband. “I can’t explain it,” she said. “I just woke up one morning and decided I wanted to be married.” So a friend set her up. She and her date hit it off. And suddenly after decades of near-misses […]

August 22, 2017

Moira Weigel Talks Love and The Invention of Dating

If you’ve ever wondered about the origins of dating, Moira Weigel’s book Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating is for you. She goes into the history (hint: dating hasn’t been around that long) and shares insights along the way (for example: people have always been skeptical about the ways men and women meet and […]

August 17, 2017

‘Should I Stay or Should I Go?’

Dear Sara, I am a young family/divorce lawyer and despite seeing hundreds of cases of couples who don’t work out, I am still trying to find the recipe for what I should look for in finding the right guy or what will make a marriage last. I am 32 years old and recently started dating […]