The Heart Beat

Opinion and Invective On The World of Dating and Relationships

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February 9, 2017

Notes from my Father

I’ve had this pressing thought lately about how lovely this world would be if we all treated each other with respect and kindness. This isn’t a new thought by any means, yet it seems it’s one that keeps resurfacing in my thoughts. At a national level, and certainly not to get into a political conversation, […]

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February 7, 2017

‘He Heard From His Ex. Now We’re Both Confused.’

Dear Sara: I started dating someone in the beginning of November. Everything was going great, [until] he called to tell me he heard from an ex. [He said it] messed with his head, that possibly down the line we could open back up communication again. I have been continually hurt by men, and started dating […]

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find a relationship
February 7, 2017

‘Why Can’t I Find a Relationship?’

Dear Sara: I never really have trouble attracting dates to be honest — I am a former model (although never did much professional work but suffice to say, I am conventionally attractive/fit) and also a lawyer to boot. I’ve been told men may find me intimidating by females and some men have admitted this although […]

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holiday
December 22, 2016

A Holiday Survival Guide for Singles

We have some very creative people who work at eHarmony! One of our social media specialists Shannon created this sweet survival guide for anyone having a tough time during the holidays. Whether you are single or in a relationship, I think this time of year can feel a bit lonely if you have lost loved […]

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how to get over someone
December 7, 2016

‘I Have No Relationship Experience’

Dear Sara: Growing up, I lived a very sheltered life: Most things were simply given to me, in return for a level of conformity that followed certain expectations. Throughout high school, I was essentially prohibited from being in a relationship (along with strict avoidance of drinking and partying—yeah, those were fun years) as I was […]

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single during thanksgiving
November 21, 2016

Single at Thanksgiving: A Simple Plan For Dealing With Family

My friend Rachel recently told me about a furniture shopping trip she took with her mother. Her mom wanted to purchase a comfortable guest bed that would accommodate her sister and brother-in-law. Both Rachel and her sister were in their 40s and had recently married for first time. Their mother was still adjusting to the […]

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what men want
November 11, 2016

Men Are Looking for a Nurturer, Not Another Mother

Having worked with hundreds of male clients over the years, I can say with assurance that what men are really looking for in a woman is nurturance. Men are looking for a woman who can be strong, but also kind and warm. Men want a woman who shows them physical affection, and also listens when […]

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rejection
November 3, 2016

‘I’m Tired of Being Rejected’

Dear Sara: I am a 29-year-old single male with social awkwardness, and I’m depressed because I’m getting nowhere with women. I have met some women online, and I’m lucky to get a second date with just one of them. I take it personally, like it’s me, and have had a psychic tell me it’s because I […]

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finding love during new years
November 3, 2016

60 Days ‘Til Love: Get Ready for the New Year’s Rush

The arrival of November marks the start of the holiday season. It’s also the time when singles like to complain about how terrible it is to be unattached during these weeks of holiday cheer. Here’s a better idea: Use the next two months to get ready for the time when it’s actually great to be […]

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loneliness
October 20, 2016

Write Your Break-Up Recovery Story

When you’re dealing with the pain and trauma of a breakup, there are few phrases more annoying than “look on the bright side” or “it’s probably for the best.” Your heart has been shattered. Your life, upheaved. Who will get the friends? What will I do with my weekends? Will I ever see my blue […]

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