The Heart Beat

Opinion and Invective On The World of Dating and Relationships

dating advice tv
August 20, 2015

When The Single Life Doesn’t Resemble a Sitcom

Dear Sara: I read an article you wrote [about being single for a very long time] last year while house sitting a married friend’s cats–as only a single girl can do! Then I ordered your book. I have read EVERY SINGLE book on the market on “What was wrong with me?” Well no more! Your […]

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August 19, 2015

‘Why Are My Married Friends So Smug?’

Dear Sara: What goes on psychologically that causes people to brag about their relationships and then chastise single friends for wanting the same thing? I’ve read studies before saying that happiness actually causes selfishness, and that if you’re down, it’s best not to talk to a friend who’s very happy with their life because they’re […]

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get rid of baggage
August 12, 2015

The Joy of Purging

“If you want to improve your life immediately, go clean out a closet.  Often it’s what we hold onto that holds us back.” Purging! I’m not referring to an eating disorder. I’m referring to the amazing experience of getting rid of “clutter” in our lives. My family and I recently moved. It wasn’t a huge […]

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spinster no more
August 11, 2015

The ‘Spinster’ Updates Her Image

Until recently, the image we associated with the word “spinster” was fairly universal: a bottled-up woman in a high-neck shirt, hair pulled into a tight bun. So it was a good sign of progress when the term was discarded and replaced with “single woman.” With an interesting career, great apartment, and lots of cocktail-party invitations, […]

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July 29, 2015

Why You Should Be a Selfish Dater

From the time we’re little children we are told to share. We’re told to be thoughtful, and to put others ahead of ourselves. “Don’t be selfish!” is a refrain heard in homes up and down every street in America. When it comes to little children and toys the lesson is necessary. When it comes to […]

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July 15, 2015

Was Finding Love Easier For Your Grandparents?

In his new book, Modern Romance, comedian Aziz Ansari describes texting a woman named Tanya and asking her for a date. A few minutes later, the software shows she read it. Then he sees the little dots that indicate she’s typing a reply. Then the dots vanish. Several hours pass and no word. A day […]

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July 9, 2015

Dating at 25 Versus 35: Advantages and Disadvantages

The experiences of dating at 25 versus 35 are light years apart. Though ten years’ difference may not seem so long relative to the overall lifespan, ten years makes an enormous difference at this critical juncture of adulthood. In one’s 20s, men and women are dating and getting established professionally; by their 30s, many men […]

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June 18, 2015

Franny Agnes Lee: ‘No Dice, Grandpa’

Franny Agnes Lee has many chapters in her dating diary. Her latest outing turns out to be a shocker of the senior kind. I am sure some of you can relate! See More Franny Dates!

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feeling left out
June 17, 2015

Feeling Left Out? You’re Probably More Likable

“Am I the only single person left?” That’s a question that often strikes unattached people, especially during wedding season. While the bridal showers and bachelor weekends are often fun, watching close pals disappear into relationships can leave many singles feeling left out. But a study recently published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology finds a […]

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once a cheater always a cheater
June 3, 2015

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

You’ve probably heard someone say it before: “If he cheated once, he’ll do it again.” Everyone loves a good generalization, don’t they? If someone cheats once, will that person usually cheat again? In a nutshell, people who cheat will usually cheat again unless they suffer a major consequence for their behavior. Cheaters who experienced a […]

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