The Heart Beat

Opinion and Invective On The World of Dating and Relationships

when to introduce kids
March 23, 2015

Introducing the Kids…

“The uncertainty of parenting can bring up feelings in us that range from frustration to terror.” — Brene Brown I had a great conversation with a friend last week. I’m not sure we ever landed on an answer, but it was a worthwhile discussion that I want to share here. I would love to get your […]

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longest ride
March 20, 2015

What You Should Sacrifice for Love — and Where You Should Never Compromise

Brought to you by ‘The Longest Ride’, in theaters April 10. When we’re younger and more naive, we want so much to believe that love conquers all odds and obstacles. We tend to believe this until we get our hearts seriously broken for the first time. But when it comes to making a long-term relationship […]

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theexisprettier
March 18, 2015

When His Ex is Prettier Than You

Let me say from the start that I feel your pain. Dating someone seriously and simultaneously knowing that his ex was prettier than you can make you feel, well, pretty low. Even if you happen to be the most well-rounded, well-adjusted catch in the world, the reality is that you’re still human and that we still […]

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birthday blues
March 17, 2015

Coping with the Milestone Birthday Blues

Dear Sara: I’m two months away from turning 35. Despite my trying to stay away from depressing media and articles, I find myself getting sucked in anyway. What would you tell yourself as a single 35-year-old, knowing what you now know? —R Dear R: When I turned 35, I had been unattached for four years, […]

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broken hearts how to deal with advice
March 16, 2015

Unrequited: When the One You Love Doesn’t Love You Back

When Lisa Phillips was thirty years old, she fell passionately in love with an unavailable man. Her crush began as a hopeful mental diversion, but quickly escalated into a kind of madness. At one point, she found herself standing outside the man’s door, knocking so loudly and insistently that when he finally opened it he […]

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breakupbenefits2
March 3, 2015

‘The Best Breakup I Ever Had’

After Jaime’s boyfriend ended their four-year relationship last fall, she was devastated. “I remember just kind of folding in half in the kitchen one night, sobbing, because there was nothing else to do,” she says. But soon after, Jaime noticed that she started feeling better a lot more quickly than she expected. She moved into […]

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love at weddings
March 2, 2015

I Fell in Love at the Wedding

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”  ~Mignon McLaughlin A dear friend got engaged several months ago. We were all so excited for her. She came over one night and we talked about her plans for the wedding. You know, all the normal stuff – where they were […]

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why men and women leave relationships
March 2, 2015

6 Reasons Men and Women Leave their Partners

Who knows more about how and why a marriage falls apart than a divorce mediator? Those in this field have witnessed the breakdown of many unions, and now two of them are actually writing about it in a new book called Conscious Coupling – Positive Insights for Long-Lasting Relationships Shared by Two Divorce Mediators. Don Desroches and […]

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mending a broken heart
February 24, 2015

Breaking Up Might Be Easier Than You Think

There’s no doubt about it: Breakups hurt. One study found that newly single people looking at pictures of their exes had the same brain activity as those experiencing physical pain. In the aftermath of Valentine’s Day, many people are feeling that sting. This is, unfortunately, a common time of year for couples to part. The […]

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moving on
February 20, 2015

Rounding the Corner

“It will always be okay in the end; if it’s not okay yet, then it’s not the end.” I had coffee with a friend last week. She told me about her niece who is going through a nasty divorce. Her niece is angry. She’s hurt. She feels as if her life is over and that […]

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